TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.Not invited to family get togethers - still just not ready for this step, kids will be there. Not saying all divorced men with kids are like this.... I'm 22 and just broke up with a 23 year old divorced dad of 5 year old.Not staying over as much - he's closer to work from his house.... This past Tuesday night we had plans for him to come over. It is not worth it..is spoiled the mom is a crazy ****. Happy I left before I got pregnant and ended up miserable.By putting more pressure on him, I pushed him away.To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path.Working overtime alot - he has a lot of child support to pay. But ladies, when you have that gut that something isn't right, normally you're right. "Oh I was with my brother the whole time, we walked out together." when asked who the woman was (incase it's just an old friend he ran into - hence, still making excuses) he flipped out, got extremely defensive. Tried to make me feel guilty for being there and he left me. My point is for all of you that are in this boat, please take a step back and look at your relationship with this man without the blinders on. If your divorced man with kids doesn't want you in his entire life, then you're better than that. His child support payments are so high he could never afford to live on his own.
And one remains a trusted friend to this day (and I'm glad).
If you’ve been dating for a while and are looking to continue seeing each other, especially if you are dating with the intention of looking for a life partner, it’s not unreasonable to ask about the circumstances of his divorce.
If, for example, his ex-wife is bitter about the divorce, it’s good to know that going into your relationship, because it will likely affect her feelings about you (if she knows about you) and (worst-case) how she treats her ex-husband and the kids.
-- I would be remiss if I didn't also share some cautions to keep in mind.
In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).