And we all know someone who’s gone on a date with a guy who’s claimed to be at least four inches taller than he’s turned out to be.‘We have to wonder if people think this is harmless or if people do it intentionally,’ love coach Nikki Leigh tells Bustle.To the men who start a conversation with no picture: don’t ignore or complain when politely asked for one; you wouldn’t talk to a box with a question mark on it at a bar. Tell me again how straight you are with my tongue down your throat. Every time you mention how good-looking you are, or how in shape you are, or how good a lover you are, or how hung you are, you are only reinforcing the fact that you are probably none of those things.You should at least attempt life before you give it away to paid sex and heroin. If you send someone an email, you expect a response — it’s common decency. Don’t hide behind a veil of what you assume people think is cool or hot. You are not hiding your racism by explaining it further. You guys already have a bad rap; don’t solidify this by playing up to stereotypes. There is a difference between confidence and assholery.You have no idea what they really look like or are like because they present themselves in such an overwhelmingly positive light.
But really, unless the other guys state that they’re into that sort of thing, please refrain from sending explicit requests or pictures to them.They did not use the text feature where you can explain who the person was, either. That said, please put energy and time into your photos, because they are very important.This obviously leads many to wonder…who is this mystery guest? People are being ghosted, breadcrumbed and zombeyed all over the place.And when they’re not doing that, they’re often leading you up the garden path with their overly edited and curated profiles.