In my college days, many moons ago, I perfected the art of meeting girls online.
Of course, back then, “online” consisted of IRC chat rooms on the IBM Mainframe that connected together the University systems across the state, as well as the online email and electronic bulletin board system that all of the college students used to stay connected to one another. I was painfully shy when meeting new people – bordering on some kind of clinical social anxiety disorder, I’m sure.
“One person’s voice could annoy you or a guy may remind you of a horrible ex-boyfriend in person.
I had a lengthy email affair with this one guy and we went back and forth for a month, emailing daily. Right, but when we finally met in person, it was a match.
Joy Davidson, the stakes are generally higher for her.
“Remember that getting ready for a first ‘meet-up’ takes as much time and effort for a woman as a real first date,” Davidson explains.
It's always your best bet to take your Internet conversation into the real world as soon as possible before you establish a virtual rapport that can become awkward and stilted when it has to translate into face-to-face.
It’s like the other person keeps pushing it forward and pushing it forward, but it never actually happens.” , says this kind of online foot-dragging behavior drove her crazy back in her dating days (she’s now married to someone she met on a few years ago).
“I found that endless emailing was ridiculous, because there’s no way you can predict chemistry in person based on your shared chemistry online,” Schlosberg says.
“I thought by taking my time and moving cautiously with potential online dates, I was a step ahead of the game.
As a single mom, I’ve got my kids to protect and I desperately want to get the next relationship right.”Cara figured if she kept the relationship online for a greater length of time, she could weed out the weirdos and non-committal types. After three months of emails and phone calls, Cara finally arranged to meet up with a guy she met online for dinner.