But that is the point, so here goes: The post begins with a letter from a woman named Betty, who is in her late 30s and having a hard time finding men her age to date--she noticed that the men who approached her online were usually ten to twenty years older. The blogger, identified only as Moxie, confirmed that her situation was very bad indeed, and proceeded to make some very disheartening, blanket statements about men.
The guys who wanted children would surely look past her, but she would also have a tough time with men who The only bright side to such a conclusion is that at least the reader can know it's not her fault.
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In this way, dating only adds fuel to the anxiety fire.
Most of us aim, at least, to improve our lives year by year (otherwise, what’s the point?! And by this settled age, life is often in a pretty good spot, or, at least, better and richer than it was in our 20s: great friends, a career with up to 20 years back-end development, enough money to be able to not have to live off lentils and all-you-can-eat-Tuesday buffets, and to head to the pictures once in a while. In my 20s it was pretty easy for someone to add to my life, because it wasn’t fully formed.
Whether we honestly feel this way in our more grounded moments or not, this is how our plight is often represented. By the time you’re in your 30s or 40s, your life is pretty ace. Maybe you finally feel you’re quite good at what you do. You don’t stay at parties any longer than you want to. In an ideal world your partner should improve your life, not detract from it. If a partner is making your life more difficult, and not not adding to your experience, then you probably shouldn’t be with them. Your personal bar for allowing anything or anyone into your orbit has lifted with each passing year, just as a course of nature.
It's just math, and men who are too timid or shallow to date women their age. The dating market is brutal, I haven't met one person over the age of 35 who's still single who wasn't that way for a serious reason. We aren't willing to sit back and allow things to unfold at a natural pace.
And it's usually one of these: We want it all right now. We assume that if someone doesn't feel the same way we do when we do then they aren't right for us.