I think after a while the disappointment gets exhausting — whether it be from a bunch of dates with no real connection or guys not messaging back or what.Online dating is also just time-consuming.” – Kate, mid-twenties*.I usually delete Tinder because I get no messages or matches.
We have the Yoruba making up about 45 percent of the girls in Lagos while the Igbo comes second with something around 35%, Edo girls takes the third place and several other girls which includes girls from Calabar, Hausa, fulani and of course very few immigrant.
So on average, it’s a pretty good strategy in a Tragedy of the Commons kinda way.…having the pressure on you to make the initial approach is incredibly difficult.
It involves putting a lot of your ego on the line, just laying bare your sense of self and sticking a big KICK ME sign on it. As I’ve written before, having the pressure on you to make the initial approach is incredibly difficult.
Every woman I know, when she joins Ok Cupid or Fetlife or any of the assorted pay sites out there, experiences the same thing, regardless of her profile contents: a slow but steady trickle of messages from random guys, all of them between one and eight words long.
The truth is, the spam messages are part of a strategy.